I stared at the photo on Time magazine and thought ‘Wow, she has a lot of passion.”
A beautiful, defiant and non-conforming image plastered with an aggressive headline that really takes away from the peaceful loving parenting style it is.
If all you read is the cover you are missing something.
Now, I don’t support attachment parenting. I don’t hate it either.
I accept it as a legitimate parenting choice, just not mine.
And even though I didn’t wear my son past a few months – when the long baby body really started having problems staying still- I admired her for her constancy in parenting choices.
I didn’t plan on nursing my son past a year or so (6 weeks was my first goal, ultimately, I made it 10 months) and thought extended breastfeeding was a little weird and SO not me. But I saw the courage she had to do it in front of the nation to a 3-year-old child.
Every parent should have that courage and passion in their eyes.
Yep, even if.
Even if you didn’t breastfeed, didn’t babywear, didn’t sleep train, didn’t vaccinate.
Didn’t cosleep, didn’t stay at home, didn’t make you own organic babyfood.
I admire Jamie Lynn for her eloquent words, her love of her children and love for her life and parenting choices. And for her acceptance of other parenting styles, even as she has become the image of a more extreme choice in today’s society.
There seems to be a war going on between conventional parenting and attachment parenting, and that’s what I want to avoid. I want everyone to be encouraging. We’re not on opposing teams. We all need to be encouraging to each other, and I don’t think we’re doing a very good job at that. -Jamie Lynne Grumet, Time
How many people judging that cover, judging the strength in her eyes, judging the notion of attachment parenting without reading her interview inside?
How many people feel threatened by their choices even more because Time chose those two words?
I remember when I first had my hand on my belly, thinking about what was growing inside I thought about how I wanted to do it ‘right’.
You read books, you go online, you listen to advice.
So much you want to scream because some of it contradicts each other. And always there is someone saying that is the right choice, and someone saying it is the wrong choice.
What you learn, after having a baby a few months and a lot of time barely awake feeding them, rocking them is that there is no right choice but YOUR choice.
So for me, I take Time’s flame-fanning headline and turning it around on itself.
Are you MOM ENOUGH?
Yes I am.
I am MOM ENOUGH to see the beauty in other parenting choices, even if I don’t agree with them, scandalized by them, am mortified for their children or are grossed out by them.
I am MOM ENOUGH to be a stay-at-home parent who obsessively plans meals from Pinterest and forgets to add a vegetable side dish sometimes.
Who supports my son’s self-confidence by telling him what a kind and friendly person he is when his overbearing friendliness gets rejected at the playground.
Who lets him climb that ladder to the slide without help and yes, you can have another Cars toy.
Who walks him back to the pool for swim lessons while wiping the tears of fear from his eyes.
Who lets him help made dinner and cookies even if that means more dishes and more spills o the floor for me to clean up.
Who needs her time alone every night because I can only take so much a day.
I am MOM ENOUGH!
Please join me in tweeting “I am #momenough” in support of parenting choices and ALL MOMS this Mother’s Day weekend.
We are all mom enough and need to support each other.